Last Saturday I went to David's Bridal with Lins, sis-in-law Christina, Lins's 5-year-old niece, and her Mom (Mrs. W.). The store was quite busy, but fortunately we all had an appointment. The saleslady who was supposed to be helping us became less and less attentive as the afternoon went on, until by the time it was Lins's turn to try on gowns Christina and Mrs. W. got fed up and started pulling gowns off the racks themselves. Still, every 15 minutes or so the saleslady would appear and say "I'm sorry, I feel like I should be spending more time on you guys." I felt like saying: "Don't apologize, just fix it. If you feel like you're not spending enough time with us, then do something about it." But instead I said nothing. At the end, Mrs. W. thanked her for "all her help", even though in my opinion her help was lacking in both quantity and quality.
Once I was waiting in line inside Culver's, and someone else who had just come in the door cut in front of me. I stood up for myself and said "excuse me, but I was in line and you cut in front of me." Afterward I felt like a huge bitch and wished I had just said nothing and waited longer.
Why are many of us, as women, like that? We apologize for things that we can't control. We lie and say everything is fine when actually we are not satisfied. We don't stick up for ourselves. If we do stick up for ourselves, we are labeled as bitches (whether by society or just in our own minds).
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